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Uncovering the Truths & Lies from Father of the Bride

Hey there! It's your Nashville coordinator, Michaela here!

Recently, I took a vacation to San Diego, CA to visit one of the best, Mary Caroline! On my plane ride there I decided to watch Father of the Bride, since I had never seen it before. (I know, what kind of coordinator am I?!) While watching it, I was blown away with how accurate and inaccurate this movie portrays coordinators! So, I am here to unveil the lies and the truths! 

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Mary and I enjoying San Diego, CA! Isn't this succulent wall cool? Pigment is pretty cool.
 

Also, if you're an avid Father of the Bride fan, know I LOVED it and I totally recommend it! 

 

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Lie: The Coordinator, The Dictator

  • So, Franck the coordinator, takes care of contacting and choosing the florals, the style, all of the rentals, and more in the movie. This is not always the case. Different coordinators offer different handling on all of the vendors. However, Laurel Avenue doesn't choose these vendors, we discuss with you what you are looking for in these vendors and give you our suggestions of people we know, trust, and love! 

 

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Truth: Money, Money, Money

  • Franck is very honest with the family about how much things will cost at the magnitude and elegance that they want. As coordinators, we are very honest with what you can expect for your budget. Because we work in the wedding industry we want to be honest with you about what you can expect monetarily. By understanding your priorities we can best advise you where you can save and where you want to splurge. 
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Lie: Coordinator's Opinions Matter

  • Although the family is extremely happy with the wedding, one thing I noticed was that Franck always told his opinion of their taste. This is not what we do. We want you to have YOUR day! You should see your ideas and dreams come to a reality. 

 

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Truth: We've got this!

  • During the whole day, Franck and his team orchestrate and make sure everything is happening smoothly and the family knows what to do. This is our main goal! We want you to be so present and to be able to spend this with your loved ones. The minute something happens we'll be the ones to handle it.
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Lie: Your Dad will handle the problems

  • Wow, this could not have been more wrong! During the wedding, the Father of the Bride has to handle the horrendous parking situation. This would never be put into the father's hands. Your father needs to be present and we would never want to drag him away from guests or the experiences of his daughter's wedding.
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All in all, it's a great and sweet movie that I would totally recommend for you and the girls to watch. We just have to remember, you can't always believe what you see in movies! Feel free to comment below any more movies you want de-bunked! 

Special thanks to Lauren Carnes Photography & Griffin Nelson

xoxo,

Michaela

Featured Vendor: Photographer Lauren Carnes

3 Tips for Building Community in Your Every Day

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Community is something we talk about on a daily basis. The community we live in, work in, play in and “do life” in impacts who we are as friends, family members, brides and fellow wedding professionals. When I first connected with Elena of Laurel Avenue, I knew there was something special there. She has a heart of gold and an ability to foster community with others unlike most people I’ve ever met! Shortly after our first meeting, Kaley and Michaela joined the Laurel Avenue team and I had the chance to see Elena build a community within her business in a new and profound way. So when the LA team asked me to share a bit about how to build and capture community, I was so honored!

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To give you a bit of background, I am a photographer & communicator. In photography I specialize in weddings, food and brands, and in communications, I specialize in marketing, public relations, education and mentorship. In life, I specialize in telling a story in everything I do, and ultimately capture the people who help make that story possible. Today, I’m excited to share about 3 Tips for Building Community in Your Every Day. As a bride, this may look like new couple friends, as a fellow wedding vendor, this may look like networking without feeling scammy, but no matter your season of life or position in the wedding planning process, there is one thing that rings true for us all: community brings us together in a way that encourages, challenges, comforts and uplifts. And community is something we all need!

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So join me for 3 tips, in no particular order about how to build community in your every day life:

 

1.     Don’t be afraid to reach out! - Connecting with new people can be so nerve-wrecking. It almost sends us right back to the middle school days (and oh those were rough days, weren’t they?!) of wondering if she will like you or instant message you back. We must set those fears aside and remember our ultimate goal in fostering community in our every day! Be bold in your outreach and confident in who you are. You have something of value to offer!

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2.     Find how you can help. - Speaking of having something of value to offer, in new relationships there is always a way you can serve. Find what that is about you and do it well. For example, when Elena and I first met it was because many people (actually… Michaela included!) had told us we should meet when she moved to Augusta for a season. Elena was the wife of a family friend of my in-laws, and I was eager to meet her after hearing such wonderful things! I had lived in Augusta already for a year or so and been leading the Rising Tide Society TuesdaysTogether group locally. I knew that if nothing else, I could welcome her well to a new city and share my home with her. We shared many a meal around my kitchen table and built what became a long-lasting friendship. Although she was only in Augusta for a year, sharing what I knew about Augusta and the creative community here from the start was a way I could offer insight and encouragement quickly!

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3.     Continue to pursue them! Sometimes we feel as though relationships will come as easily as they did on the playground in preschool. Unfortunately, that isn’t always the case as adults. Instead, we must love and serve those around us every day, through thick and thin, to foster true community. After the initial coffee date, perhaps let them know how much you enjoyed your time together, and maybe even schedule a second “date” if you feel so bold. When you see them celebrating, celebrate with them. When you see them mourning, lend a tissue and a shoulder (and maybe a glass of wine). More than anything, know that in any good relationship worth having, a continued investment in others is key. You’ll see the seeds you sow reap benefits tenfold if you love and serve people far beyond that first coffee date.

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And finally… Bonus tip: if you’re a photographer or are working with your photographer to capture a true sense of community on your wedding day, share with them the relationships that mean the most to you! If you invite your photographer in to your community to be a part of what you cherish most in your family and friends, you’ll give him or her the freedom to capture that community in a really special way! For me that may look like capturing roommates who have a special bond or the love between a father and his only daughter. These special moments of “community” can be some of the most cherished images after the wedding day is over!

Friends, I hope you enjoyed these little tips into creating community in your daily life. I have seen the power of true community and friendships in my life and business and can only hope and pray for the same in yours! If you’re ever in Augusta, don’t hesitate to let me know, and I’d love to welcome you to my kitchen table just like Elena.

 

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Featured Couple: Ashley + Ryan Wood

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Meet Ashley & Ryan Wood! Ashley & Ryan live in Wake Forest, NC where Ashley is a Preschool teacher and Ryan is a student at Southeastern Seminary and is a customer service move coordinator. They have been married for one year and four months!

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Ashley described Ryan as gentle, diligent, and smart and Ryan described Ashley as gentle, compassionate and faithful.

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On any given Saturday you can find Ashley and Ryan sleeping in, sharing a big breakfast together, spending some time reading, going out to lunch, visiting a coffee shop, and eating dinner together while watching something on Netflix. 

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What do you love about your marriage most?

Ashley: The friendship with our marriage. Being able to have someone to share the good days and the bad days and knows so much about you and your heart. Someone you always enjoy being with, it’s a very special friendship. You feel very safe and I love the safety I feel.
Ryan: The simplicity and to be with one another a lot. The companionship of it. We get to do the exciting and mundane things together. The simplicity of companionship. Just being able to be with one another. The pressure is off to keep the romance as the center of the relationship. We are together forever. We just love one another.
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What advice would you give to someone who just got engaged?

Ashley: Enjoy the season. It goes by so quickly. It’s such a sweet season and it’s hard in the waiting. Sometimes that waiting can overshadow the joy and excitement. Enjoy all the little things and all the people. Use that time to build that friendship with one another.
Ryan: I’m thankful for our engagement because we were a part for a lot of it, which is tough. Use your engagement to become the person you want to be for your spouse. WE both had a lot of time to grow. Allowing that time to look into your life and seeing what you want to change and who do I want to become. The Lord used that time to grow us.
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How do you honor your spouse in conflict?

Ashley: Ryan will say, “I’m not deliberately hurting you,” I’ve had to tell myself this truth. That really stuck out to me one day. I would take it very personally. Being the one that is more sensitive is I have to remind myself that he isn’t against me and giving him the benefit of the doubt. Regardless of how you are feeling, remembering this person lvoes me and remembering where he is. We are a team and he’s for me. It’s a lot of grace and forgiveness. You do have to forgive and very quickly not hold it over them or against them.
Ryan: Addressing it quickly. Allowing myself to be “inconvenienced” by resolving the conflict immediately. I normally feel like it is something that can wait, but working through it and talking about it right after so we can move on. 
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We loved getting to know more about Ashley and Ryan's marriage! They have such big hearts and we glad to have them on the blog!

Special thanks to Eleanor Stenner & Katie Snyder

xoxo,

Michaela