10 Keys for a Bride Planning Her Own Wedding

Hey Girl. 

You're making it happen for you and your honey?

Prouda you, champ. 

Bet you thought I was gonna say "hire a planner, yo!" but I ain't about changing minds, I'm about helping brides, because suga, I was you. 

Here's 10 things you need to (HAVE TO) remember if you're planning your own wedding. 

Grab a pen. There's several lists involved ;) 



1. Make a Big-Picture list. 

What do I mean? I mean B A S I C. You want to wear a dress? Write "GOOGLE DRESS SHOPS". You want to feed your guests? Write "RESEARCH FOOD". Why am I suggesting you keep it simple and plain? Because if you write "BUY DRESS" or "BOOK CATERER" it could be months before you check that off.

I want you succeeding right off the bat. 

2. Call a recently married friend. 

Are you entitled to a 100% unique wedding that tells your unique love story


Do you need to reinvent the wheel when it comes to figuring out how to rent chairs for 150 people? 

Nah, baby. 

Call a pal that did this recently. Just say, "What do I need to know that you wish you'd known?"

3. Dream a little. 

I'm a logistics girl.

As wedding planner and coordinator I am ALL about getting my clients from A to B to Altar with no fluff in between. 

So this is me stepping outside of my usual checklist box and saying getcha booty on Pinterest. And do it in a smart way. You know that one Pin on your wedding board, look into it. Is it flowers? Discover what kind of stems they are so you can eventually tell your florist. Is it a dress? Find out what brand it is, and go try it on! This is where dreaming becomes planning, sweet bride. 


PC: We Do Photography

4. Don't order the extras yet. 

Okay I'm not being mean, but I need ya to focus. 

Don't order or buy anything under $100 for your wedding until you have booked the big guys: Photo, Catering, etc. In fact, I'd urge you to wait to do micro-shopping until the last 5 or 6 weeks of engagement. 

I'm looking at you, tempting Etsy purchase. 

5. Give church wedding a fair shake. 

Have you ever thought about the fact that churches have every single needed amenity to host a great wedding? I know outside seems more frothy and romantic, but when you're planning, don't write off your good ole home church. Chances are it will be (a) way cheaper (b) way easier and (c) you might be surprised by ways they can accommodate like paying for your pre-martial counseling! And the sanctuary will seem more romantic than a 95 degree field, y'all. 

Not a church girl? I gotcha. But it's definitely a worth-while place to investigate for one of the more sacred days of life.  

6. Stop over-thinking wedding party attire. 

You can read more about that here. 

It can be a black hole of time spent googling and it will leave you feeling discouraged. 

PC: Hannah Forsberg & Lauren Carnes

7. Make a list of people you want to honor and include. 

It will honestly help inform your planning decisions if you have a sticky note on your screen with the names of those people who helped raise you. You'll know exactly what you need to do to make each person feel loved, and after your wedding you'll be so glad you did. 

8. Learn the guest list secret

There is one. I will tell you EXACTLY how many guests you can expect. I have walked around plenty of weddings with a counting clicker and this math is right within 2 or 3 guests. 

You can expect

85% of in town guests


65% of out of town guests

You'll thank me later. 

9. Make a list of all the "norms"...

                        then cross some off

Just start jotting down things like...

Bouquet Toss
Wearing a veil
Waiting to see groom till altar
Cut Cake
First Dance
Something Blue

Write down every "wedding norm" you can think of, and then THINK ABOUT if that's something you want to include. If you do, great! I'm just here to remind you that your day is a very short amount of time, and I want you to spend it doing things that MEAN something to you, not things you feel like you SHOULD do, ya heard?

10. Do these First 5 Steps

I  already wrote down the first 5 things ANY bride needs to do FIRST, and exactly HOW to do them and it's FO FREE. So go get it, baby girl. 




Feeling like you could use a little more guidance?

Girl I got you. 

I'd be happy to have a phone chat with you for $100 bucks if that'd be helpful.

Let's call it a clarity session. 

You can ask me anything, or I can give you a list of to-dos, and you'll be on your DIY-ing way!

Holler at ya girl right here: Call me, Beep me





PC: Heather Payne