Here ye, here ye!
We have an elephant that has just entered the room.
Do I ask my friend to be a vendor at my wedding?
Calling all friends, vendors, and anyone who is struggling to truly know what it looks like to combine the two.
Friendors, if you will.
Last October I was asked to be a bridesmaid in one of my besties' weddings, Becca. Their wedding was two weekends ago and it was exquisite. Yay, Mr. and Mrs. Dalton Porche!
Becca's wedding is a perfect example to share on the positive side of not booking your friends. There were definitely moments in her planning when I had the ability to aid her when questions were asked, but ultimately...it consisted of lovingly standing by her all day, fluffing her dress, getting hair done, and giggling without worrying about a timeline.
It was far more special to me that she and Dalton chose me to be a part of their day. I also felt that I was able to take on my role as a bridesmaid and not fall short in my duties multitasking as friend and coordinator. Including standing beside them during their vows and encompassing that moment as a friend.
Don't be scared, we'll be honored!
If Becca would have asked me to coordinate her wedding, I wouldn't have blinked before saying yes. In order to best fulfill any role she needed filled, I would have been anywhere at anytime. That's what best friends do, am I right?
Don't like your friends style, but feel pressured to inquire?
Do not show interest. Bitterness, awkwardness, and frustration is way worse than the person finding out you've booked someone else. This is about your taste. Not a distant cousin that you don't care for who enjoys DJ-ing, yet you book them anyways.
I think it's safe to say when choosing your vendor team...ask yourself these three questions:
1. Is it logistically sound for the day of the wedding?
+ or will they have to juggle multiple jobs
2. Do I love his/her work so badly that I want them as my vendor?
+or am I just going with them because of my connection
3. Will they treasure the memory of being a guest or being a part in pulling the day off more?
+ ask them this question as a tie breaker
Cheers to having talented friends!!